Stepping into an expatriate journey can be an exciting yet challenging experience, not just for the individual taking on a new job role, but also for their partner. While the focus often lies on the professional aspects of relocation, each spouse’s role and struggles are equally significant.
Let’s take a closer look at the common challenges faced by expatriates and their spouses and explore strategies for providing meaningful support to one another throughout this journey.
Challenges of the Expatriate
Journey
Moving to a new country isn’t going to be easy for either individual in a couple. After all, you’re both leaving behind familiar surroundings and social networks. It can be incredibly difficult to adjust to a new culture and lifestyle while dealing with feelings of displacement. While one spouse typically struggles with the challenges that come with the new job role, the other might be feeling isolated or purposeless (especially if they’ve had to leave a job in order to move).
Common issues that one or both expatriate spouses may experience when moving to a new country for work include:
- Loss or change in identity
- Career disruption or new challenges
- Social isolation or social circle changes
How Expatriate Couples Can Support Each Other
Because so many changes can become overwhelming for couples who move to a new country, let’s explore a few ways that individuals can help their spouse adjust to their new sense of normal.
Make the Decision Together
When making such a monumental change in your life, it’s essential to have both parties on board when planning for the move. Talk with your spouse about what’s likely going to happen when you relocate to a new country. By making decisions together from the very beginning, you and your partner can plan for the future in ways that will prevent you from facing undue challenges upon your move.
Practice Open Communication
Effective, open communication is essential when it comes to addressing the concerns and needs of both partners throughout an expatriate journey. Encourage regular check-ins with one another to discuss challenges, set new goals, and offer mutual support. Do your best to be empathetic and understanding of your partner’s experience and the emotions they’re dealing with.
If you’re the working spouse, try to help your partner overcome their feelings of isolation and unfamiliarity. If you’re the accompanying spouse, do what you can to help your partner ease into their new role at work by listening to their needs.
Try Social Networking
Do what you can to actively seek out social opportunities and community groups that cater to expatriates and their families. Joining clubs, volunteering for services, or attending cultural events can help alleviate feelings of isolation for both parties. In addition, getting involved with your new community can help you and your partner foster meaningful relationships with fellow expats and locals alike. It’s a great way to discover the ins and outs of your new home’s culture.
Supporting expatriate partners through the challenges of relocation requires patience, empathy, and a willingness to adapt to new surroundings. By prioritizing open communication and new social connections, couples can navigate the expatriate journey together with resilience and mutual support. Remember, the expatriate experience is a shared adventure, and by supporting each other, couples can emerge stronger and more connected than ever before.
If you’re struggling with your mental health as an expatriate and you feel that therapy would be a helpful option for you, reach out to us at DK Therapy at your convenience.
