Being on the receiving end of manipulative behavior can be devastating and difficult to address in any form. However, there’s an added layer of complexity involved when we experience what’s known as gaslighting in a professional setting. In this article, we’ll explore how gaslighting can happen at work, as well as a few strategies you can use to address and overcome these incidents.
What Does Gaslighting at Work Look Like?
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where the gaslighter attempts to convince the victim of their tactics to question their interpretation of events. In a work setting, gaslighting can take on many forms, as perpetrators of this behavior can employ all sorts of techniques to influence others to question their own sanity.
For example, an employee’s manager might mistakenly forget to assign a piece of work to the employee. However, instead of admitting that a mistake was made, a gaslighter may insist that the work was assigned accordingly, then blame the employee for not having it done.
In another situation, a member of management might avoid recording or documenting meetings so that this individual can change agreements or deny discussions that were had later on.
How to Address Gaslighting at Work
Addressing gaslighting can be complicated in any situation, but doing so in a work setting can be especially difficult. Many people who experience this form of manipulation avoid taking action due to being worried about the security of their position. However, letting gaslighting slide can impair one’s productivity and self-esteem in the workplace.
As such, it’s important to address and overcome gaslighting at work. Here are a few tips to follow if you need help.
Document Everything
If you’re beginning to question your perception of reality because of someone at work, take time to document the conversations you have with this person. By keeping detailed records of your interactions, you can refer back to them when something questionable occurs.
Avoid Confrontations
Even if you have an airtight argument in your favor, directly confronting a gaslighter at work will rarely lead to positive outcomes. In many cases, someone who gaslights others will become angry or retaliate when their behaviors are brought to light.
Instead, avoid this person if at all possible so that you can protect yourself from their manipulative actions against you.
Talk to Someone You Can Trust
If you’re experiencing gaslighting at work, it’s a good idea to ask someone you trust for confirmation or assistance. For example, you may have a supervisor who acts as an unbiased third party, one you can talk to if you’re feeling concerned about a situation that occurred between yourself and the person gaslighting you. You may find that you’re not the only person experiencing these issues.
Report the Problem
When gaslighting at work becomes an issue that you can no longer handle on your own, it might be time to report the incidents that occurred to your company’s HR department. There’s no way to be certain that the higher-ups will support you, but bringing the situation the their attention may lead to a resolution.
Addressing and overcoming gaslighting at work is essential for creating a healthy and productive workplace. By identifying gaslighting when it occurs, seeking support, and taking proactive steps to address the issue, employees can help contribute to a more positive work environment for everyone.
If you’re struggling with gaslighting at work and you feel that therapy would be beneficial, we invite you to reach out to DK Therapy. Schedule an appointment and one of our experienced counselors will assist you.
