When discussing mental health, we often hear about depression and flourishing, two very clear states of being. But what about the space in between?
Languishing, a term coined by sociologist Corey Keyes, describes a state of stagnation, emptiness, and lack of fulfillment. It’s not clinical depression, but it’s also far from thriving. If you’ve ever felt like you’re simply going through the motions, struggling to find motivation or joy, you may be languishing.
Recognizing the Signs of Languishing
Unlike depression, which is marked by sadness, hopelessness, and significant disruptions in daily life, languishing is more subtle. People who are languishing may:
- Feel a sense of aimlessness or emptiness
- Struggle with concentration and focus
- Experience reduced motivation and enthusiasm
- Find themselves disengaged from work, relationships, or hobbies
This state can last for months or even years, and it usually leaves individuals feeling stuck in a continuous rut.
Why Languishing Is an Issue
Languishing might not meet the criteria for a mental illness, but that doesn’t mean it should be ignored. Research suggests that people who languish tend to be at a greater risk of developing more severe mental health concerns. In addition, languishing gradually erodes productivity, engagement in activities, and overall well-being.
Stress is so common in today’s world that many people accept languishing, so long as they’re not in active crisis. While failing to thrive may be less noticeable than constant anxiety, it’s not an ideal situation.
How to Move from Languishing to Flourishing
The good news is that languishing isn’t a permanent state – at least, it doesn’t have to be. Through both effort and intention, it’s possible to regain a sense of purpose, engagement, and even joy.
Here are a few strategies that may help:
Focus on Meaningful Activities
Taking part in rewarding activities, like creative projects, volunteering, or social networking, can help inspire a sense of fulfillment.
Set Small, Simple Goals
Languishing often stems from feeling directionless, but it can be hard to find the right way to approach a goal. A life-changing goal usually feels insurmountable at first, so it’s best to break it up into actionable steps. Setting and accomplishing a series of small goals can help you build momentum and take note of your progress along the way.
Focus on ‘Flow’ Experiences
Psychologists describe ‘flow’ as a state of being deeply engaged in an activity. Finding moments of flow at work, during exercise, or while taking part in a hobby can help counteract lingering feelings of stagnation.
Take Care of Your Mental and Physical Health
Getting exercise on a regular basis, practicing mindfulness routines, and consistently getting enough sleep can improve mental clarity and one’s overall well-being.
Maintain and Enhance Social Connections
Languishing can be an incredibly isolating experience. It tends to induce feelings of loneliness, as those affected witness others thriving while they’re stuck on the sidelines (at least mentally). However, focusing on positive relationships and having meaningful conversations may help rekindle a sense of belonging and motivation.
Languishing is more than just feeling emotionally flat. It’s often a lasting mental state that can hinder both professional and personal growth. By being aware of how languishing feels and taking steps to prevent experiencing it, the possibilities to thrive are endless.
If you find yourself stuck in this state, remember: small changes can lead to meaningful improvements, and support is always available.
To see firsthand what therapy can do for you, we invite you to reach out to DK Therapy and book an appointment with our office.
