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5 Signs You May Have Postpartum Depression

5 Signs You May Have Postpartum Depression

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Pregnancy and giving birth are among the most demanding biological processes a person can experience. Because so much happens when bringing new life into the world, it’s no wonder that many new parents struggle with complicated feelings after the birth of a baby.

Postpartum depression (PPD) is a serious mental health condition that affects many new mothers, and sometimes fathers, after childbirth. Because the hormonal changes that take place during and after having a baby can be a lot to deal with, it’s important to recognize the signs of this condition. This way, new parents can seek the support and treatment they need early on.

Here are five common signs you may have postpartum depression.

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1. Persistent Sadness or Hopelessness

Feeling down or experiencing occasional sadness is normal for new parents, especially when considering the stress of caring for a newborn and the significant disruption in a new parent’s schedule. However, if these feelings last for more than a couple of weeks and they seem overwhelming, postpartum depression may be worth looking into. 

2. Severe Mood Swings

It’s natural to have mood swings after giving birth, especially because your mind and body are trying to fall into a brand-new life stage. However, severe or uncontrollable mood swings that impact your daily life are a red flag. If you find yourself crying for no apparent reason, feeling irritable or angry, or having intense episodes of anxiety, don’t ignore them. It may be time to reach out for help.

3. Loss of Interest in Activities

One of the key signs of postpartum depression is a loss of interest or joy in activities you once found happiness in. In some cases, this lack of interest can extend to an aversion to your baby, which makes caregiving activities incredibly challenging. 

Of course, no new parent wants to experience these feelings, and their existence can lead to guilt and feelings of inadequacy as a parent. It’s important to remember, though, YOU are not doing anything wrong. You can’t control how you’re feeling, and signs of postpartum depression are nothing to be ashamed of. You may need professional help, and nothing about that makes you a bad parent.

4. Changes in Sleep and Appetite

Postpartum depression can disrupt your sleep patterns as well as your appetite. New parents typically experience sleep disturbances due to newborn care, but PPD-related sleep issues can be far more pervasive than that. Sleep issues brought on by PPD may include either insomnia or excessive sleeping. 

Changes in appetite can follow the same path, with new parents either avoiding food or eating excessively.

5. Difficulty Bonding with Your Baby

One of the hardest components of PPD is the struggle to bond with your baby. You may be feeling emotionally distant or disconnected from your child, which makes it hard to form a loving relationship. Many new parents experience significant guilt or shame when it comes to this issue, but they shouldn’t be ignored. 

Postpartum depression can be devastating, but it’s important to understand that the feelings you’re experiencing are not your fault. Seeking help is not a comment on your abilities as a parent, and there’s bravery in admitting that you’re in a tough situation you want out of. In many cases, talking to a therapist or seeking medical attention can help you reduce or even eliminate symptoms of postpartum depression. 

Remember, you’ve just undergone a very demanding change in your life, and if you need help dealing with complex emotions, there’s no time like the present. You’re not alone.

If you’re struggling and you’d like to see what therapy can do for you, reach out to DK Therapy at your convenience and schedule an appointment with our office.

The Power of ‘No’: Asserting Your Needs as a New Parent

The Power of ‘No’: Asserting Your Needs as a New Parent

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Becoming a parent for the first time is a life-changing and joyful experience, one that’s full of love, wonder, and the making of memories. However, it also comes with its share of challenges, including getting around the overwhelming expectations and demands that come from others. You can’t satisfy everyone, so one of the most powerful tools to equip during this time is the ability to say “no.” 

Making your own needs and demands known is a must for maintaining your well-being as a new parent and making sure you’re doing what you believe is right for your child.

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Saying “No” Is a Must as a New Parent

Saying “no” doesn’t mean you’re being negative or selfish at all. Taking this measure means that you’re setting boundaries to protect your child as well as your own mental, emotional, and physical well-being. As a new parent, your primary focus should be on nurturing both your baby and yourself. When you use the power to say “no” to commitments or pressures you’re not into, you make space for yourself to focus on what truly matters to you.

Common Situations Where Saying “No” Is OK

Plenty of potentially stressful events come up when you’ve just brought home a new baby, and regardless of those involved, it’s okay to say no to anything that isn’t necessary. 

For example, family and friends may be eager to visit in order to meet the new baby. While that’s easy to understand, it’s also important to control the frequency and timing of these visits. When you need time to yourself and your child, you’re well within your rights to say no or suggest a more convenient time.

You may also find yourself on the receiving end of advice you didn’t ask for, which can get overwhelming fast. Politely declining advice that doesn’t fit your parenting style is unfortunately a normal part of the experience. Trust your instincts in these events and seek the advice of a professional when in doubt.

Your social life doesn’t end just because you’ve had a child, but when you’re just getting used to parenthood, these obligations can be draining. It’s okay to decline invitations to social gatherings when you’re not feeling up to it. As a new parent, rest and recovery is far more important than satisfying expectations.

Finally, if you’re balancing your career and parenting, it’s crucial to manage your workload effectively. Saying “no” to extra projects or overtime can help you maintain a healthy work-life balance.

How to Assert Your Needs as a New Parent

When you need to say no to a request obligation, be clear and firm about it. You’re going through a major life change and you don’t owe anyone an elaborate explanation when it comes to your needs. A simple “I appreciate the offer, but I can’t commit to that right now” is good enough.

If you’re feeling guilty, remind yourself that it’s okay to prioritize your needs. Parenting is very demanding, and taking care of yourself is not just beneficial but necessary. On top of being your own advocate, it’s wise to surround yourself with supportive people who respect your boundaries and will have your back in unpleasant situations. Be sure to communicate openly with your partner about your needs and work together to create the right environment.

Don’t think of standing up for yourself as being rude. As long as you conduct yourself politely, yet firmly, people who truly care about you will understand.

Embracing the power of “no” is a must when making it through the early stages of parenthood. This useful tool helps you prioritize your needs, manage your stress levels, and create a balanced environment in which your baby will thrive. Remember, saying “no” is an act of self-love and a step towards becoming the best parent you can be.

If you’re struggling as a new parent and you’d like to see what therapy can do for you, reach out to DK Therapy to schedule an appointment with our office.